This is going to be a roller-coaster post, and more personal than my last ones. Let’s start with the good news, shall we?
Loving Distance nominated me for a Liebster award! Liebster award nominations go to the best new blogs with under 200 subscribers. Liebster nominations are kind of pay-it-forward deals, where the nominee answers several questions and then asks some of another blogger (who is then nominated and repeat the process). Here are the questions that I was asked:
1. When did you start blogging and why?
I started blogging about 13 years ago (although this blog is less than a year old). I started Day is Night as a way to organize my goals during a long distance relationship; I also thought it would be a great way for me to keep in touch with my family, as I live on a different continent than they do.
2. When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
Some incarnation of Selena. When I got older I wanted to be a writer.
3. What’s on the top of you to-do list?
I really need to grocery shop, but (fun fact!) major grocery stores in Korea close on 1st and 3rd Sundays. It’s meant to give small businesses a chance, but all it really does is stop me from shopping on the weekend.
4. If you could live anywhere for a year, without having to worry about money, where would you live?
Germany, definitely. I’ve always wanted to improve my German.
5. How did you meet your significant other?
Shane and I met on a Facebook group for foreigners living in our city.
6. What advice would you give to couples who are new to a long distance relationship?
Make the distance something that you will cherish; it’s likely that you’ll never again have that much space to grow and yet that much loving support. Create the mementos that you’ll treasure in the years to come: handwritten letters, little surprise gifts. Anyone who says that distance is easy is someone who you don’t need relationship advice from. However, difficulty doesn’t have to mean strife, and you should care for and value yourself as your partner does, instead of focusing on countdowns and the things that you miss.
With that said, it’s time for this post to get very real. To borrow a term, last month Shane and I “consciously uncoupled.” I don’t want to frighten people who are in LDRs and hate reading these sorts of things; let me be clear that it is more difficult to be a foreigner than it is to be in an LDR. Sometimes, when you don’t fit in one place, you start chafing in others, too.
The hardest part of ending a relationship is feeling, suddenly, remote. It’s not unlike the feeling of being a foreigner or of beginning a long distance relationship. I hope you’ll all keep reading.